Sunday, June 24, 2007

Thoughts at Tropical Sno One Morning

As I was opening Tropical Sno this morning, I had a bunch of thoughts run through my mind and I was frustrated for a minute because they all came so fast and so suddenly... that I can’t remember all of them now that I am sitting with my laptop in front of me ready to type. Uh… figures. It’s ok, they’ll come to me again if they’re really something I need to get out (here's hoping). This is one thing I can delve into though (it is seriously dead at Trop right now, and has been for the past hour or something, it’s so boring).

I’ve found thus far in life that people have common bonds. These common bonds can be very simple and very small, seemingly insignificant things. Or, they can be the opposite. I have both, depending on the person I’m relating to. If you sit down and have a conversation with someone for 10 minutes, you can probably take the content of that conversation and take so many things from it that you relate to, either because you’ve had similar experiences, you’ve known other people who have explained similar experiences to you, or both, or whatever. And that’s just having a brief conversation with another human being. I sit down with people and talk for hours sometimes. Even when the conversations aren’t heavy and deep, even when they’re funny and humorous and silly- it still happens. And to think about it even more, I’m only 18 years old! I have so many more years to experience, it’s overwhelming to think of the life experiences that are to come later on. With age, we collect even more potential to relate to others. This makes me wonder why so many people in the world have so much hate for other people. We’ve all heard somebody say, “ugh… I HATE that person.” I don’t think it counts when one jokingly uses the word hate and when the people you’re telling it to know that it’s not real too. But when it is said and is truly meant, that’s what I’m referring to. So I wonder why there is so much hate. If we can all admit to the ability to relate to other people, does it just stop there- do we choose not to understand, not to feel, not to think about it? Once you relate to someone, something inside of you gives you that “wow, I know exactly what she’s talking about” sense. Once that has been done, you think about what that person must be feeling, and maybe how you felt when you experienced something similar, and so you can then put yourself in that person’s shoes for a minute and realize what’s going on inside of them. After that, an understanding comes. You think about how that person has been affected by whatever experience and the feelings and emotions that they go through. Maybe you think about how they were changed, if they were changed, if they were resilient, if they behave a certain way now because of something in their past. People have different ideas and different ways of thinking, but we all feel the same things and experience change from the choices we make and the things that happen to us in life. How do we not have that figured out yet? I know it’s more complicated than that. But if everyone figured out the basics of understanding, maybe that’s a start.

Is it because people are so quick to write someone off their list? If you foul once, you’re out. They’ll never forgive, they’ll never forget. The Bible tells us love does not keep record of wrongs, but it kind of seems like nobody listens to the Word of God. Is it pride, is it your dignity? “I won’t ever forget what Nancy did to me, she’ll never be a friend of mine ever again, she’s dead to me. She hurt me so much, I can’t believe she betrayed me, she doesn’t deserve my friendship!”--I’m sure. I’ve heard about people saying things like that, and believing them down to their cores. I've never said anything like that or thought that, but I have definitely used the word hate before when talking about a person... fortunately when I was a lot younger and a lot more stupid. Not that I'm not stupid with things now, but..... I'd say there's a definite shift in amount of stupidity going on, and with different kinds of situations. Aaaanyway. Yeah and I don't really mean "stupid" like unintelligent, but more like "stupid" meaning- oh man why did I ever act like that...

I would write more, but business is starting to pick up at good ole Trop. Finally!

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